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Why has an Amber Alert not been called for missing 12 year old child?

FOUND !!! @OttawaPolice advised at 3 p.m. March 1st, 2013, Trinity Payash was found.
MISSING 12yo CHILD >> February 28th, 2012 2:30 p.m. from Ottawa, Ontario Canada
Ottawa Citizen Missing Child Notification

(Updated: March 1, 2012 at 8:30pm)

Twitter became abuzz 7 p.m. EST last night with news that a missing 12 year old aboriginal child could not be found in Ottawa, Ontario Canada.  Her name is Trinity Payash.

Original twitter notifications can be traced back to Ottawa Citizen reporters Meghan Hurley and  Gary Dimmock.  (I could not find any official and collaborating press release but because both profiles indicated they were working for a recognizable news source, I felt confident to RT (return) the Missing Child Alert.)  Ms. Hurley wrote the article it was published sometime later that night.

Why was an Amber Alert not issued?

It is because she was missing before .

Only 6 months ago but in Thunder Bay, little Trinity tried to disappear. She was 11.

Since then, she had a birthday and now she lives in Ottawa. She is not in Thunder Bay anymore and as dangerous as a place that is, as reported by The National CBC "Living in Fear" less than 10 days ago. It is potentially safer than Ottawa - potentially safer than Montreal, a mere 2 hours away, an even more popular city for child sex trafficking psychopaths.

The Ottawa police used reporters and reporters used twitter to get the word out to the public this time. Social Media is a useful and effective tool for police when the need arises. The problems any police department seems to have with social media in potential crime reporting only seems to comes when the information disseminated is unfavourable to them - then they warn of misinformation and rumour.

At 7 a.m. it looked like @OttawaPolice the official Ottawa Police twitter account just warned of ice dangers on the Rideau Canal - not a missing 12 year old child. I looked. I was corrected by the Ottawa Police that they did actually post an alert at approximately at 7 p.m.. I looked over 14 hours later but I missed it somehow.

Have you seen her picture? She looks like a budding baby. She is a budding young lady. Police state she could pass for 15 - 17 year old girl. What 12 year old girl couldn't? It does not mean in any way shape of form, that she is menatlly capable of being aware of her own protection.

Given her odds - should there not be more of more concern for her protection against Child Sex Trafficking rings?

Canada - read that again - Canada - meaning ALL of us (blame government policies but Canadian elected that goverment and their policies, we are equally liable for the atrocities befallen First Nations people.) We are undergoing a Human Rights Tribunal for discrimination against First Nations children and acees to basic Human Rights. The United Nations has declared it, as well as Amnesty Internation a few years ago!

Why has an Amber Alert not been issued?

"An AMBER Alert is not intended for cases involving parental abductions or runaways except in life threatening situations." OPP

It is not a life threatening issue that a little girl who rececently turned 12 years old is not at danger missing in a huge city; she recently moved to, and could not possible comprehend how to safely travel about or within - where would she go?

It is zero temperature in Ottawa. It is cold. Do you think by now, ca car has driven by, noticed her? Stopped? Asked her if she wanted to get warm? Offered her a burger and fries?

Do you think a 12 year old child alone, freezing and hungry would get in? I do.

Is that not a life threatening situation?

There are NO bad kids - there are only SAD kids.


(Note: This post is about questioning the expansion of Amber Alert program and is not about the police. I am sure police followed protocol. This post is about questioning that protocol.)

#Danzig Shooting: "Something has to be done - Something has to change!"

You hear this sentiment... this wish.. this hope everywhere from everybody throughout Canada but particularly now with the tragedy that unfolded on Danzig Street in Scarborough, Ontario on Monday.

"Something has to change - something has to be done."

Something... something... something... what could possibly to done to immediately eradicate the threat and use of illegal hand guns, not only in Toronto, but anywhere in Canada.


"O Canada! Our home and native land!
True patriot love in all thy sons command.
With glowing hearts we see thee rise,
The True North strong and free!
From far and wide, O Canada,
We stand on guard for thee.
God keep our land glorious and free!
O Canada, we stand on guard for thee.
O Canada, we stand on guard for thee. "


We stand on guard for thee... We stand on guard for thee... We are the ones!

Is that not the change?! Is that not the "something that has to be done"?!

Our anthem tells us what must be done to protect our country, our citizens, our guests, our reputation. We as Canadians, each and every single individual must stand on guard for thee... others.

Illegal hand guns are a problem; that is becoming increasingly evident. Who knows more about that then the police, the government or any other authority enforcing laws meant to keep us - safe and, our country, safe... Canada... so it continues to be... True - North - Strong - Free.

Mayor of Toronto, do not patronize. "This" is not an "isolated incident".

25 people - 2 have died - It could have been 25. The "incident" could have so easily been described as massacre. It could happen again. It just might happen again.

The people who brought those guns. The people who shot those guns. The people who killed 2 and shot up so many others. They must be caught - but so should the "people" who knew these shooters even had the guns.

The "something"... the "something" that needs to change... the "something" that needs to be done.

That would be us.

We need to stand on guard for thee.

"O Canada" is not just an anthem - it is a pledge. We need to report to Crime Stoppers our knowledge who carries and whom threatens to use illegal handguns. If "we" do what "we" are supposed to... "Stand on Guard" they cannot.


Do that today. Stand on guard for your family, your neighbours, your communities and your country.

Call Crime Stoppers - 1.800.222.8477 (TIPS) - Report the illegal handgun(s) and save a life - save many lives.

I personally thank you... I thank you very, very much.

Confessions of a Mom: #1

I hide chocolate in the vegetable drawer of the fridge because I know my kids will never find it.

How to change the stigma of Mental Health

Use the word "Psychological" instead..

Imagine the difference it would make if in every press conference and every article the word "mental" was replace with psychological - the stigma of "mental" illness would change.

Psychological Health - Psychological Illness - Psychological, not Mental. It would make a difference.


What do you think?


Comment and begin a discussion..

Abuse, violence can alter children's DNA: Study

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Abuse, violence can alter children's DNA: study

Is the DSBN an educational & financial liability for Niagara's children?

In 2005 my children were transferred from the TDSB (Toronto District School Board) to the DSBN (District School Board of Niagara).  My son entered grade six and my daughter grade one.

Immediately, my son began to complain. "I'm bored. I know all of this, I did it before."  I replied, "It's September, it's always review, soon you'll be complaining of homework."

He never did.

My son is quick.  He always has been; not just scholastically but in life.  He notices things, he remembers things, he pays attention and he questions - he is very bright.

He complained all year long.  "I know this, I've done this already!!"

On several occasions I spoke to various school officials that assured me the curriculum was the same (as it falls under Provincial standards) but I still urged the teachers to challenge him. His enthusiasm diminished quickly only it was attributed to the location move and adjusting.  Being a normal Mom, I absorbed the guilt and dismissed the curriculum.

One day when when he was in grade seven (second semester), he came home from school shouting.  "Mom! Mom! MOM!!  Where is my stuff Mom?!" as he bounded up the stairs to his room.

 "Where is my work from my old school?!!" "MOM!!!!"

My son is a typically a quiet kid, but on this day - wow!  He was obviously very unhappy and upset.

"I am not doing this again!  I am not doing the same work again!!" as he was scrambled through his closet looking for his "old schools' keepsakes".

"Where's my book reports?!  I'm not reading this book again, I did this report - and I got an A!"

"I'm not doing it again Mom -  I'm not!!"

When I looked at him, his face was full of angst and there was a look in his eyes, a look I had never seen before. I wasn't sure what it was, but it was very different, it was new and it was distressful.

The book is Maniac Magee written by Jerry Spinelli and delves into the topics of racism, poverty and homelessness. "Scholastic" indicates this book is for ages 9-13 and for a grade level of  5.4 .

The TDSB is on par, my son studied this novel in grade 5, second semester at age 10-11.  In comparison, The DSBN decided this particular acclaimed novel study, one of literary and social awareness was more applicable for children in Niagara at the age of 12-13, being grade 7.

Why?

My son handed in a new book report and got a C+. That mark did not reflect his level of comprehension, that mark reflected indifference and defeat. That was the look in his eye that day - defeat.

The Province of Ontario dictates and provides the educational materials 'needed' for course instruction. Long gone are the days when teachers could think for themselves and teach according to the students in their class, not according to the officials watching through the door.

Niagara parents seriously need to question why the DSBN feels the same book, with the same tests is at par with Niagara children whom are two years older. This is extreme.

Eventually, the children will all be completing with each other for post-secondary education, not to mention, financing. Niagara has one of the highest unemployment rates in Canada and most residents stay within the region.

Could there be a direct correlation between the education standards held by the DSBN and the continuum of high poverty in Niagara?

Could there also be a correlation between the curriculum and a school board's determination to rank in the EQAO testing?

Is this differential about education or politics?

My son will tell you, "these schools made me stupid." He continued to speak with the kids from his old school and would say, "Mom I could never go back to Toronto, I would fail everything. I'm not smart anymore."

Of course I disputed his theory but I could see the effects. His judgement and choices changed. He gave up and his enthusiasm to learn was gone - why bother became the attitude. He was no longer challenged.

If I could have afforded it, I would have moved back - but I couldn't.

I was hopeful that when he entered high school and it was a more 'adult' atmosphere, he would once again be enthusiastic about his education. That never happened.

Now before someone hypes about teachers - lay off - their hands are tied with red tape but their personalities are not which is the true difference between a "good" and "bad" teacher.

It also factors into whether or not your child's education is accelerated by enjoying their school year or stagnated though boredom and discouragement.

My mother was a teacher, I grew up with teachers, one of my best friends today, is one of my own high school teachers. I will defend most educators. But, today, they are carbon-copy graduates who dictate mandatory curriculum. They are the adult versions of unenthusiastic students. It is a continuation of the "why bother" attitude and the children sense it, then adopt it.

As a parent, I commend the rogue educators. I thank you, keep fighting.

As for parental responsibility and involvement, I am educated. I have Grade 13 and 3 years post-secondary education. I have consistently reinforced the value of education in both my children since they were small as my mother instilled in me and - I did all I could to educate my child in tangent with their school.

After the Maniac McGee incident, I demanded an answer from the school and reinforced my concerns but the DSBN chosen grade 7 curriculum was "technically" correct. I requested advanced work. This occurred for a short time but ended. When? I honestly don't know but it did.

Ontario offers an IEP (Independent Educational Plan) for student with difficulties in maintaining provincial standards - why don't they offer the same for the children who excel?

The provincial government in all its glory totes success of the EQAO (Education Quality and Accountability Office). Measurement of students achieving grades, ranking of teachers and schools educational success does not regulate the root of this testing - the curriculum.

Who monitors and measures the choices and decisions between the School Boards? The mean base is unbalanced. The same one that the Ontario government measures, rates and ranks schools, teachers and children according to results of "standardized testing".

If the curriculum is not equal, and the level of challenge unbalanced - how can the results be comparable?

Ontario is the only province that does not allow its Ombudsman to investigate the MUSH sector, Municipalities, Universities, Schools, Hospitals. Where do you go? Who do you talk to? Who will listen?

The DSBN has no accountability to justify its decision that Niagara children are at a two year literary disadvantage than those of children who live a mere ninety minutes away.

So, you be the judge.

Is the DSBN an educational and financial liability for Niagara's children?



Request your MPP to expand the mandate of the Ontario Ombudsman to include School Boards here. (Ontario residents only).

Obama Gets It - When will Prime Minister Stephen Harper?!

Official Presidential Proclamation, December 28th, 2011

Presidential Proclamation -- National Stalking Awareness Month, 2012

By Newsroom America Feeds at 28 Dec 14:40

Release Time:

For Immediate Release


BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA

A PROCLAMATION

In our schools and in our neighborhoods, at home and in workplaces across our Nation, stalking endangers the physical and emotional well being of millions of American men and women every year. Too often, stalking goes unreported and unaddressed, and we must take action against this unacceptable abuse. This month, we stand with all those who have been affected by stalking and strengthen our resolve to prevent this crime before it occurs.

Stalkers inspire fear through intimidation, explicit or implied threats, and nonconsensual communication often by telephone, text message, or email that can cause severe emotional and physical distress. Many victims suffer anxiety attacks, feelings of anger or helplessness, and depression. Fearing for their safety, some are forced to relocate or change jobs to protect themselves. And, tragically, stalking can be a precursor to more violent offenses, including sexual assault and homicide. The consequences of this crime are real, and they take a profound and ongoing toll on men, women, teens, and children across our country.

Despite the dangerous reality of stalking, public awareness and legal responses to this crime remain limited. New data show that one in six women and one in 19 men have experienced stalking that caused them to be very fearful or feel that they or someone close to them were in immediate physical danger. Among men and women alike, victims are most commonly stalked by current or former intimate partners, and young adults are at the highest risk for stalking victimization. Though stalking can occur in any community, shame, fear of retribution, or concerns that they will not be supported lead many victims to forego reporting the crime to the police. As we strive to reverse this trend, we must do more to promote public awareness and support for survivors of stalking.

My Administration is working to advance protection and services for stalking victims, empower survivors to break the cycle of abuse, and bring an end to violence against women and men. With unprecedented coordination between Federal agencies, we are promoting new tools to decrease the incidence of domestic violence, sexual assault, dating violence, and stalking, and we are taking action to ensure perpetrators are held accountable. To reinforce these efforts, advocates, law enforcement officials, and others who work with victims must continue to improve their capacity to respond with swift and comprehensive action. From raising awareness to pursuing criminal justice, all of us have a role to play in stopping this senseless and harmful behavior.

This month, let us come together to prevent abuse, violence, and harassment in all their forms and renew our commitment to bring care and support to those in need.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim January 2012 as National Stalking Awareness Month.

I call on all Americans to learn to recognize the signs of stalking, acknowledge stalking as a serious crime, and urge those impacted not to be afraid to speak out or ask for help. Let us also resolve to support victims and survivors, and to create communities that are secure and supportive for all Americans.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this twenty eighth day of December, in the year of our Lord two thousand eleven, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-sixth.

BARACK OBAMA